Ask the Etiquette Masters: Divorced Parents and Wedding Invitations


Traditional etiquette plays an enormous role in how Persnickety words every piece of a bride’s invitation suite. Even brides who opt for more unique or modern wording are interested in the tradition behind their wedding invitation, and there are always plenty of questions!

To help, we’ve gone straight to the experts at the Emily Post Institute for their help in a series of new posts called Ask the Etiquette Masters. Here we’ll delve into those tricky etiquette questions brides have about their invitations and find guidance from Emily Post’s expert advice.

Q. My parents are divorced and my father has since remarried. How do I list my mom, dad, and stepmom properly on my wedding invitation?

A. How to list divorced parents on a wedding invitation is a question Persnickety receives all the time. According to the Emily Post Institute, the answer lies in who is paying for the wedding.


Traditionally, the bride’s parents pay for the wedding invitations, but this is not the case for all cultures. If the bride’s parents are the ones paying, their names should be the ones listed first. If the bride and groom are receiving financial assistance from both sets of parents for the invitations, then the names of both sets of parents and their spouses should appear.

In a set of divorced parents, the mother is always listed first:

Ms. Susan Smith (bride’s mother)

Mr. and Mrs. James Green (bride’s father AND stepmother)
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Nicole Elizabeth Smith
Michael John Harris
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Aaron Harris (groom’s mother and father)

If the groom’s parents are divorced, it would also appear similar, with his mother listed first:

Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Clark (bride’s mother and father)
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Nicole Elaine
Anthony John Hill
son of
Ms. Karen Stein (groom’s mother)
Mr. and Mrs. Eric Hill (groom’s father AND stepmother)


Using the wording, “Together with their parents” is another acceptable way to acknowledge parents on the wedding invitation, particularly to avoid the invitation looking too cluttered with names and taking the attention away from the couple.

Do you have a burning etiquette question about your wedding stationery that you need help solving? Drop Persnickety an email or a Facebook post, and let’s chat!


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  1. […] You can check out more rules and regulations for listing divorced parents in one of our previous blog posts by clicking here. […]

  2. S gurung
    November 6, 2018 at 3:19 pm

    My parents were divorced when I was 5…both remarried…I use my bio fathers name…my mother passed away 6ys back….my bio dad supported my high school edu n my step dad n mom financed my college…
    now my marriage is fixed n want to include my bio father mother n my step dad’s name in the invitation card . Please help me here as I don’t want to upset my father step dad n their relatives

    1. Katie
      November 8, 2018 at 3:40 pm

      Hello! If you want to list your parents specifically by name,
      we would suggest the following:
      Mr. Andrew Smith (Biological Dad)
      Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe (stepparents)
      request the honor of your presence…

      That way no one is left out!

  3. Scott Brunner
    September 19, 2021 at 10:54 pm

    My daughter’s mother and I are divorced.
    Mother is remarried so we know stepdad should be listed on wedding invite. I am engaged and have been with same woman ( who my daughter loves) for years now.
    Should my fiance’ be listed on wedding invite?

    1. Melissa
      September 26, 2021 at 3:11 pm

      Hi Scott – I think if your daughter and your fiancee are close, it makes sense to list her. If you are listing all parents by name, I would suggest:

      Mr. and Mrs. and
      Mr. and Ms.
      request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter

      Hope this helps you!

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